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Pairadocs is a podcast with a Christian take on life, family, and culture. Jimmy and Josh will provide marriage and parenting insight, to be sure.  However, don't be suprised if other topics emerge,  such as sports, entertainment, politics, or the latest episode of Pioneer Woman - we have way too many women in our lives!

Nov 23, 2020

Perfectionism.  Most would agree that this personality trait is not great.  BUT, if you are a perfectionist, you secretly, sort of, like being this way.  It’s kind of like being a “workaholic.”  We say we don’t like that aspect of our lives yet are inwardly proud of how much we can accomplish.  Perfectionism is, not only, bad for us as an individual, but can be devastating in our home.  

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PROBLEM:

  1. See it in:
    1. Kids- upset if not perfect, performance anxiety
    2. Mom/Wives- Clean house, fixation on kid’s performance, behavior, and dress, can’t leave work at work
    3. Dad/Husbands- How things look, Sports, irritation as substandard behavior/dress…
  2. Hold double standard
  3. You're constantly evaluating yourself, and not living up to who you believe you could be. This induces shame. 
  4. Procrastination can simply be thought of as insecure perfectionism on steroids. 

SOLUTION:

  1. To want something is good.  To NEED it is not good.
  2. Embrace and sit in uncomfortable, unpleasant emotions
  3. By grace saved, not of good works
  4. Acknowledge it.
  5. What is driving this?  What core belief?
  6. Anti-anxiety tool is “Worst case” scenario 
  7. Adjust your standards to just be “good enough.”

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How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Nov 16, 2020

We’ve all seen them, haven’t we?  Those parents who care WAY too much about how their child is doing in sports.  They take out a second mortgage and blow through their family’s savings just to keep their kid on select/travel teams.  They yell at the refs, the coach, and their kid.  You would think their entire self-worth hinged on whether their child plays well and wins the game…hmmm.  I wonder… Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy get the signal, step up to the plate, and discuss The Push.  Parents and sports.  Play ball!!

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Warning Signs of The Push

  1. Parent getting their own need for self-worth through their child’s sport performance.  
  2. Year-round, non-stop sports.  One long, never ending season
  3. Year-round specialization.  Tommy John surgery for high schoolers. 
  4. All other aspect of family life takes a back seat 
  5. Do you care more than your child who is actually playing the sport?
  6. ****Anger at child’s performance****

Solution for the Push:

  1. Define Success
  2. Let the child lead. Brad McCoy
  3. Teach your child to try hard, work hard, practice hard, and play hard.  Col. 3:23, “All like doing it for Christ.”

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Nov 9, 2020

We hear a lot of talk about dysfunctional families these days.  Apparently, they are bad, and can cause some real damage to those who find themselves in one.  But is my family dysfunctional? Did I come from one?  How do I make sure my family doesn’t become one?  I’m glad you asked!!  Join the fellas this week and they discussion what dysfunctional families are, how to prevent them, and what to do if you fear you’re in one.

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 Problem with dysfunction:

  1. Long lasting impact.  Consistent, Frequent, Duration, changes the brain
  2. Dysfunctional families rack up tons of little “t” traumas.
  3. We tend to absorb both healthy and unhealthy behavioral/relationship patterns from our FOO

Solution: (Psychology Today; Julie Hall)

Here’s several “Signs” of dysfunction…make sure you do the opposite!

  1. Acceptance/Love is conditional
  2. Someone must always be blamed/scapegoat
  3. Vulnerability is dangerous, therefore, no intimacy
  4. The family has “Teams”
  5. Appearance not authenticity is ALL IMPORTANT
  6. Rage is normalized
  7. Denial & Defensiveness are the norm

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Nov 2, 2020

Ever feel like a spiritual taxi driver? Is your goal as a parent to make sure your child is at every church event? Do you get nervous when asked to spiritual lead / guide your child? When your child has a spiritual question, is this intimidating? This week Jimmy and Josh discuss your one job as a parent, spiritually leading your child.




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Harelips the Governor

 

 Pagan Christianity by Barna

 

Other than praying over dinner or before bed, is God present in your life / your family’s life? 

 

Biggest takeaway, you need to be more spiritually connected in your own life, to be able to guide your own child. 

 

God doesn’t call you to raise faithful kids, he’s calling you to be faithful.

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

  

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

  

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

 

Oct 26, 2020

As the late great country music artist, Mac Davis, once sang, “Oh, Lord, it’s hard to be humble!”  And in our current culture and the competitive, “me-obsessed” environment that our kids are growing up in, these words have never been more spot on.  Join the fellas this week, as they kick around the topic of raising humble kids.

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 We live in a culture that is for the glorification of self. Our culture and a lot of our homes struggle to produce humble kids.

“If you have to toot your own horn, your horn ain’t worth tootin’” – Bill Myers Sr

We need to teach them how to express their views modestly. How to share praise and blame. 

Learning to accept failure is key.

It’s important to model a lack of defensiveness.

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Oct 19, 2020

Many of you have read her books to your kids and found them to be an invaluable resource during this unprecedented electronically connected time. And if you haven’t read these books to your kids, after listening to this show, you definitely will. This week Jimmy and Josh sit down with Kristen Jenson, from Protect Young Minds, about her best-selling books, Good Pictures Bad Pictures and her newest, Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.When should we talk to our children about pornography? To quote Kristen, “As soon as they have internet access.” Think about that...

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https://www.protectyoungminds.org/

https://www.protectyoungminds.org/about/

https://braindefense.protectyoungminds.org/

https://www.protectyoungminds.org/books/

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com 

Instagram: @protectyoungminds
Twitter: @protectYM

 

Oct 12, 2020

You know ‘em! You love ‘em! And you can’t live without ‘em! I don’t know the numbers on their jerseys, but I do know they’re number 1 in your heart...drum roll, please...This week, the boys sit down with Melanie Shankle and Sophie Hudson, the co-hosts of the Big Boo Cast! They talk about the ladies’ new books, life, love, and not to give too much away...pheasant hunting fashion tips.

The Big Boo Cast

Melanie Shankle

Sophie Hudson

Opal Nugget Ice Maker

Stand All the Way Up by Sophie Hudson

On the Bright Side by Melanie Shankle

Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com 

Oct 5, 2020

I know you’ve never said this before, but I’m sure you’ve known someone who has exclaimed, “That kid makes me so mad!!”  Anger is an emotion that all parents have experienced, yet parental anger that is expressed in the wrong way can be the most destructive emotional element in any home.  Ouch.  This week, the guys chat about putting a lid on parental anger.  

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Series 33 – Lifeway

Problem with parental anger:

  1. Things that we say and do that we regret are mostly done in anger
  2. Parental anger is the most destructive emotional element in the home
  3. Most anger is brought about by faulty thinking that is adrenaline induced.
    1. Albert Ellis ABC Model
    2. This is now we KNOW that nothing MAKES you mad.
  4. 90% of parental anger is sin. We sin, but don’t see God’s wrath
  5. We believe it’s justified. But it is never justified.

Solution to parental anger:

  1. Realize first response is your worst response
  2. STOP
    1. Stop and separate
    2. Tone down tension
    3. Open YOUR heart to God
    4. Present Christ to your child

Excerpt from Toe to Toe with Your Teen (2nd Edition)

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Sep 28, 2020

 

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Sep 7, 2020

Is unconditionally loving your child and unconditionally praising your child the same thing?  Maybe not.  In fact, numerous studies indicate that lavishing praise on a child with little or no merit, actually can have a negative impact on the child’s emotional development.  But then again, no praise could indicate emotion emotional neglect.  What’s a parent to do?!  It’s like we’re danged if we do, or danged if we don’t.

Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy delve into the sticky, and somewhat controversial, topic of undeserved praise. 

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Aug 31, 2020

Pairadocs podcast has joined the Christian Parenting Podcast Network!

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Jul 29, 2020

Since we’re all doing school from home now, please answer the following questions:

 

  1. Honey, do these new pants make my butt look big?

  2. No, I left your gift at the office.  Do you really think I’d forget our anniversary?

  3. Mommy, are some of the kids on my team better than me?

  4. Daddy, I’m so sad that Fluffy died.  Is he in heaven with Jesus?

  5. Hey, Babe, I can’t see the back of my head.  Am I balding at all?

 

So how did you do?  Answer honestly.  This week, the guys kick around the topic of how honest is too honest in the family. 

 

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We can justify lying by trying to "not hurt our spouse". It's choosing the path of least resistance. "Why would I purposefully hurt my wife" is the thought.

 

However, lying can be a behavior that can form a habit - quickly.

 

If you can't tell your spouse the truth out of fear of their response, you're in trouble. Without truth there is no trust, without trust there is no love.

 

You earn the right to speak truth / be honest. Love people first, then provide your truth.

 

Our goal in word and deed is congruency. Be the same in front of your wife as you are away from her.

 

We struggle to be honest with others because we are not honest with ourselves.

 

Be sure that you yourself are cultivating a relationship where people can be honest with you.

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Jul 20, 2020

We’ve all done it.  Looked at how our spouse is behaving and wondered, “Wow, if he really loved me, he wouldn’t be doing that.”  Some of us have felt that so strongly that we actually say those word to our spouse.  Making their momentary behavior a referendum on “if” they love us or not.  Full disclosure, I have done this myself.  Just the other night I told my wife, Beth, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t make me watch the Downtown Abby movie a second time.”  Wow, that felt good.  Freedom comes through honesty and confession.  Listen in this week as the guys expose this relationally destructive, yet common conflict mistake. 

 

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Even if we don't say these exact words, it is common for us to think/feel that "If our spouse loved me, he/she would -- blank --". 

 

Men ask the same question, "If you respected me, you would".

 

Don't assume your spouse doesn't love you. Unless your spouse has said "I don't love you" - assume he/she does. 

 

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Jul 6, 2020

I’m so sorry its taken so long to get this episode out, BUT there were many reasons why it couldn’t get done sooner…Listen, I said I was sorry.  What do you want from me?  You feel hurt that we have kept this life-changing podcast from you for this long?  Well, I’m sorry you feel that way.  To hurt you was not our intent, so really, you have to own your own feelings.  Am I right?  Ok, fine, drop it.  This week the boys discuss how to make a real apology. 

 

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Apologies are normal. If no one is apologizing, then there is a problem. Apologies are essential because sin exists.

 

 

Top 6 Dynamics of a True Apology

 

1. A true apology never says a "but"

2. A true apology keeps the focus on what you personally did wrong

3. A true apology doesn't try to find who started it

4. A true apology never apologizes to "shut up" the other person

5. A true apology makes apologizing "not enough" and makes an attempt to do more

 

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

May 20, 2020

Here’s a parent’s worst nightmare.  You look upstairs one day and your 27 year old son is still living in the same bedroom in your house that he occupied since the 8th grade!  Somewhere along the line, this young man…failed to launch.  Listen in this week as the guys discuss this growing phenomenon. 

 

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Helicopter parenting - hovering over your child to rescue whenever bad happens

Lawnmower parenting - clearing the path for your child so that nothing bad happens to them

 

Helicopter and lawnmower parenting cripples our children

 

Our kids an just "roll over" due to pressure/anxiety. Pressure from parents, school, friends, self, culture - can lead to kids that are anxious about adulthood and therefore just decide to give up. 

 

Parenting is an 18 year process of deparenting.

 

When they are young we as parents are supervisors, when they're teenagers we are managers, and when they are adults we become consultants.

 

Grace ceases to be grace if it occurs too often, it then becomes an expectation

 

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If you have an adult child still in your home that is failing to launch:

 

1. Begin mourning the loss of your child and accept them as adults

 

2. Have a clear written agreement on A) responsibilities they have with them still being in your home, B) a defined date when they must leave, C) creating a list of skills they need prior to leaving and D) a list of ways you might assist them financially even after they are gone. NOTE: Any assistance once they're gone needs to have an end date as well.

 

3. Risk them failing once gone - failure is one of life's great teachers

 

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

May 15, 2020

The boys follow up with their co dependency talk from last week by discussing boundaries today. What are boundaries? How do you institute them? Won't that make matters worse? Listen in.

 

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Boundariless families are dysfunctional. These families are tired. 

Lack of boundaries finds its way into most, if not all, relational problems we have.

 

We mistakenly believe that if we set a boundary, it is unloving.

 

10 Laws of Boundaries

 

1. Law of sowing and reaping - needs to be consequences to behavior

2. Law of responsibility - be responsible for self

3. Law of power - make a choice and enact power within relationship

4. Law if respect - respect other people's boundaries

5. Law of motivation - risk disappointing people

6. Law of evaluation - hurt feelings aren't harmful

7. Law of proactivity - setting boundaries early

8. Law of envy - learn to be satisfied with your life

9. Law of activity - can't be passive and have boundaries

10. Law of exposure - choose to matter and exist in relationship

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

May 4, 2020

What is co-dependency?  We’ve all heard about, accused others of being it, but what exactly is it?  I mean, we should depend on each other…right?  “Lean on me, when you’re not strong…”  Hello?!  But what is it, really?  Listen in this week as the guys unpack the sometimes misunderstood topic of co-dependency, and see if you can recognize your relationship…uh, I mean recognized a “friend’s” relationship. 

 

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Enchiladas Y Mas Closed

 

Co dependency = when one person needs another person, and the other person needs to be needed.

 

It's a relationship addiction. A toxic dance.

 

Submissive co dependents - desperately desire loves from dominant dependents

Dominant co dependents - don't give love the other desires

 

We pass on co dependency to our children

 

Recognizing who you are in your marriage:

 

Submissives

1. Does your self worth hang on your partners approval?

2. Is it difficult to say no when your partner makes a demand?

3. Do you walk on egg shells around your partner? 

4. Do you consistently worry about other's opinions of you?

5. Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?

 

Dominants

1. Are you in a constant state of frustration with your partner?

2. Can you not let go of correcting your partner?

3. It is difficult for you to agree to disagree?

4. Do you have a strong need to be right?

5. When push comes to shove, you get your way.

 

SOLUTION

 

1. Boundaries (next week)

2. Don't avoid conflict; be a buffalo

3. Figure out wants vs needs. You want your spouse, you don't need him/her

4. It is not your place to correct your spouse

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Apr 13, 2020

In our society today, we love us some tolerance! Vive la Difference! I always like to say, except when those differences we’re “Viveing” are behaviors in our spouse that are driving us up the wall during this sheltering in place experience.  How can we “let go and let God” sooth our relational differences while we’re all boarded up inside our houses 24/7?  Listen in this week as the guys discuss how to accept our spouse’s faults…That’s right.  I said it, FAULTS! They’re not differences, they are flaws in their character that if they loved me, they would change!! Or would they?

 

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Martial Wounds

1. Spouse Preferences - things that minimally impact your life

2. Infractions - things that moderately (and sometimes majorly) impact your life

3. Major Infractions - abuse, infidelity, etc

 

Scripturally, you only have justification for ending your marriage (or hardening your heart toward you spouse) for the MAJOR INFRACTIONS. 

 

Marriage is about learning to get over things.

 

70% of all marital arguments are irreconcilable. 

 

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So how do we learn to get over things?

Decide that it is not your job to change your spouse! There is a Holy Spirit and it is not me.

Get the log out of our own eye.

Conflict is never about the content, the conflict touches a "raw spot" / insecurity - so your reaction has more to do with you.

 

Can you agree to disagree? 

 

Be more grateful for your spouse's good, more than you're mad at the bad.

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Apr 6, 2020

What happens when things don't go as expected? When God doesn't make sense? When our worst fears are realized? What then? How do we respond? What's more, how do we lead our family/kids during such a time? Listen in this week as the guys discuss how to handle the storm when it hits.

 

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As parents, we set the emotional tone within the home. 

 

When something bad happens, it's not simply about you, surviving. But as a parent, it is about modeling to our children how to handle storms.

 

We don't want to model fear.

 

Faith isn't faith until it is all you have. 

 

How should we has a family handle storms? (Proverbs 3:5-6)

 

1. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. When storms happen, we must trust. Learning to trust God happens daily, before the storm happens.

 

2. Lean not on your own understandings. Life doesn't have to make sense. In fact, most often, life doesn't make sense. And just because we don't understand what God is doing, doesn't mean life is ending and the sky is falling. We shouldn't learn on our own understanding.

 

3. In all your ways, acknowledge God. Seek God and his kingdom first, and all things will be taken care of.  

 

4. The payoff, if you do the first three things, God will direct your path. Then, no matter what happens, it is a no lose in that it will be ok. 

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Apr 2, 2020

I know we discussed last week some ideas on how to cope with the entire family being at home due to the COVID, but what about working with, playing with, eating every meal with, parenting with, sitting and relaxing with, and every other activity you can think of with your  spouse…every day, all day, with no breaks.  Sounds fantastic right?!  Or does it sound like you might need a case of Xanax airlifted to your location.  So, what are some practical ideas for how to cope with sharing your every waking moment with your spouse without running screaming from your house because you decided it would be better to take your chances with the pandemic instead?

 

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1. Give each other space.

 

2. Empathize with your spouse; seeing through their eyes. Giving them patience and don't assume the worst in your spouse. 

 

3. Keep structure within the marriage. 

 

4. Have "other than spouse" adult time. Hangout with people via an online platform. 

 

5. Have spiritual time together. 

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Mar 23, 2020

Okay, the COVID…how do we NOT talk about this?  We’re all now working from home, schooling from home, going to church from home, and oh yea, performing all other human activity during every waking moment…from home.  So how do we make it through?  Other than monitoring Twitter all day?  Listen in this week, as the guys discuss ways to cope with the COVID confinement.  I mean, what else ya got to do?

 

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5 Things Your Family Can Do During COVID

 

1. Turn off the news

 

2. Get outside

 

3. Maintain family routine

 

4. Keep educating them

 

5. Don't do screens all day

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Mar 23, 2020

So, you're talking with a friend about something other than the COVID, and your Christian faith comes up.  The friend mentions that they have a huge problem with all of the evil that has been done in the name of God throughout history, and that most Christians today seem to be homophobes, xenophobes, transphobes, and, well, you get the picture.  How do we respond?  How do we teach our kids to respond?  The boys are back this week to offer some very kind, sympathetic, non-abrasive, nor phobic-in-any-way, suggestions. 

 

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Oppressive Christianity years ago was killing people; oppressive Christianity today is infringing on thoughts/beliefs.

 

Christian history does not substantiate an oppressive church history, but the exact opposite. 

 

There isn't any defending terrible acts like the crusades, but you have to begin with questioning whether or not those folks were even Christians. Their actions contradict everything that Jesus said.

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Mar 11, 2020

You know what really sticks with you…other than a foot fungus?  When it comes to our families, the answer is rituals or traditions.  Things that are said and done consistently, frequently, that span over a long duration.  Going to church and small group a couple of times a month is good, but there’s a reason that only 32% of kids raised in evangelical homes stay believers as adults.  This week the guys kick around the issue of family rituals, the glue that can help hold faiths and families together.

 

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Neuroplasticity

 

To build your child's faith neurobiologically, you must do faith consistently, frequently and over a long duration

 

Real Life Podcast

Jeff Bethke

 

Jess Bethke Daily Saying

"I am not what I do

I am not what I have

I am not what people say about me

I am the beloved of God

It is who I am

No one can take it from me

I don't have to worry

I don't have to hurry

I can trust my friend Jesus and share His love with the world"

 

Myers Family Prayer

I pray there's not a day you can remember not knowing Jesus.

That you understand your need for a Savior at an early age and experience the freedom that comes from giving your life to him.

 

I pray that praise would be in your heart and on your lips continually.

 

I pray that you would know who you are in light of the gospel. That you would have a Christ-centered confidence and Christ-centered worth.

 

I pray that you would hate sin and love holiness.

 

That you would know the power of the blood to defeat all the works of the one who came to kill, steal and destroy. That you develop relationships based on the drawing of the Holy Spirit.

 

I pray that you would love the word of God. That you would seek to understand it, hide it in your heart, and base your life on it. 

 

I pray that you will love others well. That you would have a servant's heart and a desire for your life to be used for something greater than yourself.

 

 

**Josh was kidding when he said he's "naturally good at Pairadocs topics"; he has to constantly work toward achieving these things by God's grace. 

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

 

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

 

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

 

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

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