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Now displaying: November, 2020

Pairadocs is a podcast with a Christian take on life, family, and culture. Jimmy and Josh will provide marriage and parenting insight, to be sure.  However, don't be suprised if other topics emerge,  such as sports, entertainment, politics, or the latest episode of Pioneer Woman - we have way too many women in our lives!

Nov 30, 2020

Have you or your spouse ever said something along the lines of, “We argue over little things.”, or “None of our arguments ever get resolved.”  If you have, then you have fallen headfirst into the Argument Black Hole.  Join them this week, as the guys talk about the biggest mistake couples make when they have a disagreement.

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PROBLEM:

  1. Arguing over facts
  2. Arguing over who’s reality is correct
  3. Winning is more important than solving the problem
  4. My Side Bias skews facts
  5. Memories are NOT accurate recordings of events.  Research suggests that that we remember what we WANT to believe happened

SOLUTION:

  1. Realize that the argument is not about the facts
  2. The event is the surface problem to a root cause
  3. Chose the hill you will die on
  4. Must be able to agree to disagree

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Nov 23, 2020

Perfectionism.  Most would agree that this personality trait is not great.  BUT, if you are a perfectionist, you secretly, sort of, like being this way.  It’s kind of like being a “workaholic.”  We say we don’t like that aspect of our lives yet are inwardly proud of how much we can accomplish.  Perfectionism is, not only, bad for us as an individual, but can be devastating in our home.  

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PROBLEM:

  1. See it in:
    1. Kids- upset if not perfect, performance anxiety
    2. Mom/Wives- Clean house, fixation on kid’s performance, behavior, and dress, can’t leave work at work
    3. Dad/Husbands- How things look, Sports, irritation as substandard behavior/dress…
  2. Hold double standard
  3. You're constantly evaluating yourself, and not living up to who you believe you could be. This induces shame. 
  4. Procrastination can simply be thought of as insecure perfectionism on steroids. 

SOLUTION:

  1. To want something is good.  To NEED it is not good.
  2. Embrace and sit in uncomfortable, unpleasant emotions
  3. By grace saved, not of good works
  4. Acknowledge it.
  5. What is driving this?  What core belief?
  6. Anti-anxiety tool is “Worst case” scenario 
  7. Adjust your standards to just be “good enough.”

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Nov 16, 2020

We’ve all seen them, haven’t we?  Those parents who care WAY too much about how their child is doing in sports.  They take out a second mortgage and blow through their family’s savings just to keep their kid on select/travel teams.  They yell at the refs, the coach, and their kid.  You would think their entire self-worth hinged on whether their child plays well and wins the game…hmmm.  I wonder… Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy get the signal, step up to the plate, and discuss The Push.  Parents and sports.  Play ball!!

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Warning Signs of The Push

  1. Parent getting their own need for self-worth through their child’s sport performance.  
  2. Year-round, non-stop sports.  One long, never ending season
  3. Year-round specialization.  Tommy John surgery for high schoolers. 
  4. All other aspect of family life takes a back seat 
  5. Do you care more than your child who is actually playing the sport?
  6. ****Anger at child’s performance****

Solution for the Push:

  1. Define Success
  2. Let the child lead. Brad McCoy
  3. Teach your child to try hard, work hard, practice hard, and play hard.  Col. 3:23, “All like doing it for Christ.”

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Nov 9, 2020

We hear a lot of talk about dysfunctional families these days.  Apparently, they are bad, and can cause some real damage to those who find themselves in one.  But is my family dysfunctional? Did I come from one?  How do I make sure my family doesn’t become one?  I’m glad you asked!!  Join the fellas this week and they discussion what dysfunctional families are, how to prevent them, and what to do if you fear you’re in one.

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 Problem with dysfunction:

  1. Long lasting impact.  Consistent, Frequent, Duration, changes the brain
  2. Dysfunctional families rack up tons of little “t” traumas.
  3. We tend to absorb both healthy and unhealthy behavioral/relationship patterns from our FOO

Solution: (Psychology Today; Julie Hall)

Here’s several “Signs” of dysfunction…make sure you do the opposite!

  1. Acceptance/Love is conditional
  2. Someone must always be blamed/scapegoat
  3. Vulnerability is dangerous, therefore, no intimacy
  4. The family has “Teams”
  5. Appearance not authenticity is ALL IMPORTANT
  6. Rage is normalized
  7. Denial & Defensiveness are the norm

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast 

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Nov 2, 2020

Ever feel like a spiritual taxi driver? Is your goal as a parent to make sure your child is at every church event? Do you get nervous when asked to spiritual lead / guide your child? When your child has a spiritual question, is this intimidating? This week Jimmy and Josh discuss your one job as a parent, spiritually leading your child.




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Harelips the Governor

 

 Pagan Christianity by Barna

 

Other than praying over dinner or before bed, is God present in your life / your family’s life? 

 

Biggest takeaway, you need to be more spiritually connected in your own life, to be able to guide your own child. 

 

God doesn’t call you to raise faithful kids, he’s calling you to be faithful.

 

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

  

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

 

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

  

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

 

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